Well, just nine months after I became a polyandrist, I found
out that Trevor, my companion and lover has been cheating on me for the past five
months.
I know it sounds a little ironic that I’m complaining that
he has another woman when I have another man.
But this is the difference – I was open and honest about my other relationship
with Devon, and that relationship never had a physical component.
Trevor and I had talked many times about how we were
physically monogamous – our agreement was that he could have other female
friends, but not other girlfriends.
He lied to me. I knew
about Kathleen for a long time – he always said that she was just a
friend. But, then when it came down to
business, she was a friend who didn’t know that he had a girlfriend, who our
other friends jokingly referred to as “his wife”, and who he refused to allow
me to meet. And, I believed him when he
said she was just a friend.
He seemed to believe that that it was okay for him to pursue
other women because I was a polyandrist.
He also thought that it was okay for him to kiss yet another woman when
we were at the club together. I saw him
do it. Then, when I asked him what he
was thinking his response was that we had a fight a few days before that, so he
thought I’d be okay with it.
I wasn’t. I thought he was still my boyfriend.
All relationships need honesty. Just because I am a polyandrist, and I loved
two men in committed relationships, never meant that I wanted to be unknowingly in an open
relationship.
